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Episode #130: New Yr, Similar Me

Posted on January 17, 2022January 17, 2022 By Balikoala No Comments on Episode #130: New Yr, Similar Me
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We’re excited to be kicking off a brand new season as we speak as a result of we missed you. At this time, we’re speaking about our New Yr’s plans for 2022, working from house, and we’re introducing a brand new humorous section.

-Elsie’s New Yr’s targets: Take pleasure in extra time in her house, get up early, and dwell guilt-free.

-Emma’s New Yr’s targets: Work on her novel, discover treatments for her dry eyes, and to purchase much less junk meals.

-There might be 16 episodes on this season from January-Could, after which we might be again on the finish of August.

-Elsie’s unpopular opinion on motherhood: Not worrying about how shortly your children obtain developmental or academic milestones

-Emma’s unpopular opinion about motherhood: Sleep coaching (recommends Babywise by Robert Bucknam M.D. and Gary Ezzo) and the Taking Cara Infants Course

-What Emma could be doing if she wasn’t doing her present profession: Personal a cleansing enterprise

-What Elsie could be doing if she wasn’t doing her present profession: Home flipping

Emma: You’re listening to the A Stunning Mess Podcast. We’re excited to kick off a brand new season as we speak with a bit of catch-up time as a result of we missed you, some New Yr’s targets, and plans for 2022, and we’ve a do business from home pep discuss and a brand new humorous section for you. Oh, yeah.

Elsie: Sure, I’m so excited to be again. 

Emma: Me too. It’s been type of bizarre.

Elsie: I do know. It’s our first kind of lengthy break perhaps that we’ve had since we began?

Emma: For you undoubtedly as a result of I had a break for maternity depart. 

Elsie: Proper. 

Emma: However that’s like the one actual lengthy break I’ve achieved from it since we began podcasting a few years in the past.

Elsie: Yeah, nicely, we’re excited. Now we have actually spent a while speaking about how we are able to make issues higher this 12 months. We’ll share a few of that with you on this episode however we’re excited for the brand new 12 months and type of extra impressed to podcast than ever, huh?

Emma: Sure. Oh, yeah.

Elsie: Okay, so I assumed it could be enjoyable to begin off with a bit of storytime. So over the Christmas break, it’s type of been some time since Christmas now so we received’t recap each element of our Christmas for you since you’re like, wow, that was a very long time in the past. There was one actually cute factor that occurred once we have been in Missouri visiting household and I wished Emma to inform the story as a result of it simply warmed my coronary heart, like a cup of scorching chocolate.

Emma: Oh, me too. I’ve a Slack group with my e book membership, all the ladies in my e book membership and I instantly despatched them a photograph of this.  I used to be similar to, I’ve to inform somebody however I don’t actually need to put this on social media. Anyway, and now I’m telling you on the podcast, so Elsie’s ladies Nova and Marigold each obtained me a Christmas current, which, , you don’t need to get your aunt a Christmas current. So I felt very particular, simply that. And I’ll say what Nova obtained me too, Nova obtained me a cookbook, which is about mooncakes and Chinese language cooking, Chinese language baking. In order that’s actually thrilling and we’re undoubtedly gonna make one thing from that and that’s actually up my alley.

Elsie: I purchased precisely what they stated, precisely what they stated. I simply went on Amazon and purchased it for his or her presence in order that’s what Nova stated a Chinese language cookbook after which…

Emma: Sure. Then Marigold obtained me, in my measurement, Elsa princess gown.

Elsie: It’s so cute so she put it on instantly. Emma is coming to go to us really subsequent week for her birthday and we’re going to have a princess tea get together. We’re going to make these little layered sandwiches, like a tea home in London so we’re tremendous excited. 

Emma: Sure and for those who don’t know Elsie’s daughter Marigold, Goldie, she wears her princess attire, particularly Elsa princess attire on a regular basis. So it’s like she gave me one thing that she herself would have wished if she didn’t have already got a bunch. So it simply felt very considerate in a three-year-old manner, virtually four-year-old manner now as a result of it’s virtually her birthday. It was superior.

Elsie: It undoubtedly means you’re particular.

Emma: I felt it. I opened it up and I used to be like, oh my gosh, that is perhaps the most effective present she may have ever picked out for me and I adore it a lot. I used to be like, please match me, please match me and it did. In order that was superb.

Elsie: Sure. Yeah. Oh, I imply as a result of often whenever you unwrap a gift from a child, it’s like a drawing with googly eyes glued on it. 

Emma: A candle. Yeah. 

Elsie: So yeah, it was enjoyable. I had a enjoyable Christmas and I hope you probably did too.

Emma: I did. It was superior. Oscar’s first Christmas so it was nice. Simply totally different and particular. So it’s a brand new 12 months although, shifting on from Christmas. Let’s speak about New Yr’s targets.

Elsie: I’ll say we known as this episode New Yr, Similar Me as a result of I adore it when folks say that as a result of I really love New Yr’s targets. I’ve no drawback with them. I relate with each side of the talk. Like I’ve no drawback with them and I really like them however I additionally do really feel like lots of people make targets that they will’t and received’t preserve like even for an entire week. 

Emma: Then they’re unhappy. 

Elsie: Yeah, it’s simply type of like a womp womp. I believe that we’re on the verge of perhaps we may name ourselves like aim consultants, proper? We’re actually into targets. You wouldn’t name your self that? 

Emma: I imply, I suppose so. 

Elsie: I’m fairly unfastened with after I’ll name myself an knowledgeable so I’m simply gonna preserve the label.

Emma: It type of dawned on me, as you stated, I used to be like, I don’t know if I’d name myself an knowledgeable on something so perhaps that’s a bit excessive.  Anyway, we do love targets and so we’ve obtained them.

Elsie: I believe that we all know the artwork of creating a aim that works so it’s like the appropriate measurement and the appropriate little contingencies the place it’s such as you don’t need to be good to only do it, I believe is sort of a large a part of it. So anyway, we thought we might share two targets. That is only for enjoyable. I undoubtedly assume on mine, mine are assured I’ll do them. It’s not like a perhaps it’s prefer it’s taking place. So my first one is poh, renovation stuff, nicely, yeah, I’m undoubtedly gonna do this, that’s all I do. It says renovation sensible, we’re about to show a nook and I’m actually hoping to spend 2022 having fun with extra time in our house, film nights, pool events, pizza, no matter. That really hits actually good for me proper now as a result of the previous few months, , having your area be a building zone is fairly, it takes its emotional toll. I’m a reasonably powerful individual and I’ve been by renovations earlier than. I knew precisely what I used to be moving into. I signed up for it and I’m completely satisfied that we’re doing it and it’s shifting fairly quick. It’s like happening schedule, however it’s nonetheless so exhausting, it simply is it doesn’t matter what. So I believe that for the sunshine on the finish of the tunnel is to only take into consideration all of the reminiscences that you just’re going to make within the area and it makes it really feel price it. Like why am I doing all of this? It’s for the board video games that we’re about to play within the eating room so yeah, that helps me so much.  

Emma: My first aim, oh, so I suppose I’ll say too, I type of consider my targets as like quarterly targets. I simply do higher considering of the shorter time period, even when it’s one thing that I do plan to do for the entire 12 months. By some means it simply helps me. Final 12 months, we have been speaking in regards to the 12 week 12 months, that e book. I similar to type of a month lengthy aim or a quarterly aim after which I can preserve it going if I need or no matter. So anyway, the primary one, although, is figure on my novel. I preserve happening walks anytime it’s not terribly chilly. It’s chilly on a regular basis now but when it’s simply first rate sufficient to go on a stroll, then I’m on the market strolling. Recently, I’m both listening to my audiobook for the A Stunning Mess e book membership.

Elsie: Which one are you studying at the moment? 

Emma: What’s the one? Tara Mohr? Enjoying Large, Tara Mohr. Sure, that’s the one. I simply obtained yesterday to the half the place she’s going to do the visualization. So I used to be like, oh, I can’t be strolling whereas I do that since you’re supposed to shut your eyes. So I needed to pause it and I would like to try this earlier than I can take heed to extra of it. So anyway, if I’m not listening to a e book although, I’m eager about my novel. I’ve provide you with numerous like, I type of get hung up in spots. I typically know the define, typically, like loosely. I all the time depart area for surprises, which is the tip that my pal Stephen King stated in his e book, On Writing. He’s not likely my pal, however I consider him that manner. 

Elsie: I completely declare Stephen King as considered one of my associates. He’s so fantastic. 

Emma: Me too and it may be a one-way road.

Elsie: I really like his e book as nicely. We’ll hyperlink his e book in our present notes. If anybody is making an attempt to write down a novel or kinda like something, undoubtedly learn this as a result of it’s so good. 

Emma: It’s actually good. Yeah, I do know typically the place the books going and I undoubtedly know the ending, however I’ve quite a lot of area for surprises. Anyway, as I’m strolling quite a lot of occasions, I’m type of considering by a bit of hang-up I’ve in regards to the e book like oh, how is that this character going to determine this piece out? As a result of I do know they need to determine it out however I don’t know the way they’re going to do it. I’m simply all the time considering by issues like that. Recently, I’ve had numerous like, oh, nicely, this might occur. I don’t know, one thing about strolling and being exterior simply will get my mind juices going. It’s like that within the bathe. I’ve an thought, which each occasions I can’t actually write it down. In the event you ever see me out strolling my neighborhood each every so often, I’m simply standing there typing on my cellphone. It’s often me making a word of one thing I don’t need to neglect. I similar to, oh, yeah, that will work, . So anyway, so engaged on my novel. I would like to search out extra time in my week to try this. Particularly like a devoted hour or two the place I may perform a little little bit of deep work. Having a very exhausting time discovering area for deep work these days in my life. It appears like I work in like one-hour increments after which I’ve to do one thing else after which one thing interrupts me.

Elsie: What does deep work imply? 

Emma: Simply the place you may focus for a very long time. My work week will get damaged up by conferences so much, which is completely nice. It’s exhausting to be like I used to be simply in a gathering and now I’m going to assume deeply about this fully different factor for half-hour till my subsequent assembly prefer it’s actually exhausting to try this for me. I type of want area to get into it after which come out of it. Then I can take into consideration one thing else. So anyway, I’m engaged on that type of like perhaps I may work a bit of later at night time however that’s type of my time after Oscar goes to sleep to hang around with Trey. So I’m like, type of hesitant on that. Then I’m additionally like, I may get up earlier, however I’m like, I’ve a seven-month-old and he’s actually only in the near past began sleeping by the night time and I simply type of need to sleep. So I don’t know, I like looking for the area in my day however it’s a bit of difficult.

Elsie: I undoubtedly relate with that wrestle and I believe that lots of people will. Yeah, similar to discovering your, even an hour or , like for me, I all the time assume that I would like extra time than I actually need. In order that’s additionally considered one of my struggles is like if I need to clear my closet, I believe that I would like an entire afternoon and perhaps I actually solely want an hour. 

Emma: Yep, that’s true. That’s a great level. 

Elsie: It’s like having the time blocked off a bit of bit greater than I would like is vital to me too similar to to assist me really feel like I’m not gonna be rushed the entire time or no matter. That could be a good one and I’m excited for you this 12 months to your novel.

Emma: Yeah, I considered like a tagline yesterday. Which doesn’t actually need a tagline, I’m all the time simply randomly eager about issues.

Elsie: All the pieces wants a tagline. 

Emma: I believe it’s simply three phrases. If individuals are like, what’s the e book about? I like looking for a fast manner. I believe I’m simply gonna begin telling folks it’s about motherhood, miscarriage, and homicide. That’s it. I like that it’s 3 M’s. I just like the alliteration. 

Elsie: I do know that lots of people are excited to your novel so that is gonna be thrilling. 

Emma: What’s your second aim? 

Elsie: Okay, so for the brand new 12 months so I’ve been the individual in my household who sleeps within the longest, which to be honest, is simply like sleeping till 645ish often. It’s not like I’m really sleeping in. It’s simply that everybody else wakes up sooner than me. Then all final 12 months, it was one thing I used to be actually scuffling with. I used to be scuffling with my night time routine and my morning routine, really however for the morning, it was like I’d get up and instantly really feel like I used to be behind. As a result of my husband has already had his previous man kick in the place he wakes up actually early, similar to naturally. It’s similar to daily, he’s up so early and I’m not as very like that. So anyway, I’m giving this a very enjoyable setup. However one other a part of the setup, so I began rereading Enjoying Large for the e book membership as a result of we’re going to speak about it subsequent month in February, so I began rereading it. After I obtained to the long run self visualization or the internal mentor visualization, I really like that half and I obtained a few new issues this time. It was like the identical mentor, the identical visualization, it felt very comparable from my first expertise, however I obtained a few new little bits from it. One in every of them, there’s a component which was to ask the long run self, what do I must do now to get the place you’re or no matter, one thing alongside these strains/ I requested that query, and the reply was to attempt waking up early. I used to be like, okay. So I began setting my clock for 5am on I believe it was both on January 1st or January 2nd. Now at the moment we’re recording it, it’s just like the eleventh, is it as we speak? So yeah, it’s like per week earlier than the podcast comes out so the eleventh. So anyway, I’ve been doing it, I suppose 10 entire days now. I’ve been doing it simply on the weekdays solely and never Saturday and Sunday. Saturday and Sunday, type of taken a chill. It has been giving me a full two hours of alone work time each morning, it’s a large distinction.  can already inform it’s completely price it however yeah, similar to taking that leap for some motive was actually exhausting for me. What’s your subsequent aim? 

Emma: My second aim is perhaps type of silly to some folks however it’s vital to me, is I’m making an attempt to work extra on my dry eyes. 

Elsie: Oh, sure. 

Emma: I’ve talked about this earlier than. I nonetheless simply have these terribly dry eyes. It type of impacts my life a bit of bit. It makes it exhausting for me to love, in the midst of the night time, if I do must get up Oscar associated stuff, I really feel like I can’t see typically or like, my eyes are so watery. Generally after I’m driving, particularly if it’s getting darkish, which it will get darkish at like 430. So, , straightforward to be out driving after that at this level within the 12 months. The lights from different automobiles and issues., I don’t know. It simply it’s actually annoying and I simply actually need more healthy eyes.

Elsie: In the event you’ve by no means met anybody like this, driving with Emma at night time, it’s like scary. No, I’m critical. It’s a actual drawback. I’m positive that it could offer you quite a lot of reduction for those who didn’t have to fret as a result of we’ve had a few occasions earlier than the place you felt virtually panicked since you felt such as you couldn’t see and also you couldn’t drive in any respect. That’s not cool. No, yeah. I do know final time, we talked about it, lots of people despatched you strategies and concepts.

Emma: Sure and I’ve achieved quite a lot of these issues. Right here’s my drawback is I’m not very constant. In order that’s mainly the aim proper now’s I’m making an attempt to constantly put on my glasses extra like I’m carrying them proper now whereas we’re recording. I don’t love carrying glasses, however I spotted considered one of my hang-ups was I by no means go to the expense of shopping for prescription sun shades. I wish to go on walks and typically I must run errands and stuff and I hate like oh I don’t have my glasses on, what do I do?

Elsie: How do you not have prescription sun shades? 

Emma: I do know I all the time similar to was like oh, it’s like you must purchase an entire one other pair. You recognize what I imply? It’s an entire factor and I’m like oh do I need to spend the additional cash?

Elsie: It’s like one thing you’d use daily. I’m so mad at you. Did you order some?

Emma: So anyway, I purchased so I’ve a few pairs of prescription sun shades. I’ve a bunch of glasses that I like carrying like I believe they’re cute. They’re light-weight as a result of I hate heavy heavy glasses or glasses that pinch your nostril or pinch the aspect of your head so I’ve a bunch that I like now. That’s been a number of years within the going after which I’m additionally making an attempt to be extra constant about placing my eye drops, I’ve particular eye drops that are available like little vials, and I’m making an attempt to be extra constant about placing these in earlier than I fall asleep at night time. So I’m simply making an attempt to be extra in keeping with all of the issues that I do know I’m alleged to do and simply preserve making an attempt to enhance. I do assume it has improved some the final couple of years, however I’m simply making an attempt to be a bit of extra constant as a result of like something in life, like train or skincare or something, I really feel like the primary factor that’s so boring, however it’s true, is simply being constant. That’s going to make the largest distinction, , in order that’s what I’m making an attempt to do with my dry eyes, in case anybody cares about that? There you go.

Elsie: I assure you somebody cares. Okay, nicely, that’s an amazing aim. I’m glad that you just’re gonna handle that it is best to all the time handle issues which can be going to make you a more healthy individual and be capable of dwell a extra accessible life.

Emma: Yeah, I believe too, like I used to previously, consider it as extra like an oh, if I simply do that, then there’ll be a end line. Now I’m type of like no, I don’t assume there’s a end line, I believe that is like maintaining a healthy diet. It’s one thing you must get within the behavior of and do your entire life mainly. Okay. Then these are two targets. However do you could have something that you’re slicing out or quitting this 12 months?

Elsie: I’m going to give up consuming sugar perpetually. Simply kidding. I really feel like that’s the type of factor folks often say and it’s like, okay, like, perhaps, perhaps not. Right here’s my mine for actual, mine is I’ve been engaged on this for a number of years and it’s powerful, however I’m making an attempt to dwell guilt-free. Guilt is like one thing that for no matter motive, I don’t assume I can, like, clarify why I’m like this, however for no matter motive, it’s one thing that’s actually ingrained in me and that I actually wrestle with. I really feel responsible about issues that I’m not even making an attempt to repair. I really feel responsible about issues that I don’t want to repair or that I didn’t do mistaken. I really feel responsible about or anxious about what folks assume, , simply that type of stuff. Like I believe folks, you get it, proper? So I’m actually engaged on simply kind of like dwelling freed from that, similar to letting or not it’s okay. Like when somebody requested me to, like, I get quite a lot of emails which can be asking me to do issues I don’t need to do, proper? That’s like a traditional factor that anybody in our section of profession would have. For me to get to the purpose the place I can simply say like, no, thanks is such an enormous step, , to both not keep away from it, or to say sure to one thing I don’t need to do, or to say perhaps however to truly simply say like no, is like so exhausting for some motive. So anyway, that’s my large one for this 12 months. I really feel like I’ve made some progress however I’d wish to get into the mothership of that type of way of life. What about you? 

Emma: Yeah, I like that. I really feel like my line, which really stated it to you the opposite day about one thing is like I don’t have the capability to care about that this season. 

Elsie: She says it about every little thing. Really, you’re actually good at like, perhaps we may swap one little a part of our mind. You could possibly have the a part of my mind that will have purchased 85 pairs of sun shades by now and I can have the a part of your mind that’s capable of simply say no.

Emma: That might be a great swap. Really, we might be unstoppable. Okay, mine is once more, I type of consider it as a quarterly factor, however it’s mainly to purchase much less junk meals from the grocery retailer. So this doesn’t imply I’m not consuming sugar. I’m undoubtedly consuming sugar. It doesn’t imply that I’m not like baking stuff. That’s undoubtedly baking stuff.

Elsie: Emma’s a professional sugar individual.

Emma: Oh yeah. I let Oscar have tiny bits of sugar. Come at me, I’m nice with it. However across the holidays I have a tendency to purchase extra junk meals.  I imply, like prepackaged, mainly, Oreos begin making it into my home.  I’ve obtained in charge the Oreo truffles a bit of bit.

Elsie: Oreos are one of many keystones of junk meals in my view. They’re undoubtedly for me, they’re like the one grocery retailer cookie that turns my head.

Emma: Yeah, precisely. Sure. I really like Oreos, however it isn’t one thing I’ve in my home all 12 months spherical as a result of I’ll eat all of them 12 months spherical and I don’t must. So anyway, so it’s similar to type of getting again into the behavior of I simply don’t purchase prepackaged junk meals stuff. I can nonetheless bake cookies if I need to bake cookies or if I’m out, which I’m by no means out, but when I’m can’t get one thing if I need. To me, all of that’s simpler to say no to or have moderation with but when I’ve a bunch of junk meals I already purchased and it’s in my home. I’m simply going to eat it endlessly within the evenings and in order that’s kind of my like, okay, that’s the place I would like to chill it. 

Elsie: Good. Yeah, I really like shopping for wholesome groceries. It’s such a miracle when you could have little children. My children will eat no matter. It’s like complicated how someday relying on what we purchase, they might simply eat cookies the complete day or like the opposite night time, they ate a whole package deal of strawberries and a complete package deal of blueberries in a single night time. Simply because that’s what we purchased. So I do assume that that’s a great methodology similar to shopping for what you need to eat. If it’s staring you within the face and it appeared good to you at that second, ?

Emma: Sure and actually I’m precisely the identical. If I purchase cookies, that’s what I’ll eat that night time. If I purchase a package deal of strawberries the Trey and I’ll eat the entire carton of strawberries. We’re the identical as your kids. I simply need to solely purchase the strawberries or no matter, no matter it’s.

Elsie: Good, cool. Okay, so let’s speak about what to anticipate in 2022 from the podcast. So to start with, we had quite a lot of questions coming by in regards to the e book membership schedule. So for these of you who would like that we inform you precisely once we’re going to do every e book report, I’m sorry to inform you that we are able to’t decide to that degree of a inflexible schedule, it’s simply not for us.

Emma: It’s known as A Stunning Mess. 

Elsie: Yeah, we’re really happening a much less inflexible schedule, you’ll see. So what I’ll inform you in regards to the e book membership, right here’s how one can get ready. If you wish to take part, we’re going to do the primary e book report, and I do assume we’ll do Enjoying Large first, simply because we’ve each stated, we’re already studying in, it’s like, would possibly as nicely. In February, we’re going to begin and we’re going to interrupt them up so there might be 4 totally different episodes which have a e book report in them. So it’s not gonna be the complete episode simply in regards to the e book, it’s going to be part of the episode. We’ll do Enjoying Large first, however I can’t say what order we’ll do the opposite ones in as a result of for us, similar to studying these 4 books and doing these podcasts is sufficient of a to-do record. Placing it on an ideal schedule isn’t attainable. So yeah, however it’s type of an experiment. It’s like, see how nicely we are able to make this work, after which perhaps we are able to enhance it a bit of bit subsequent season, no matter. Hopefully, it’ll work nice. However I’ll say if you’re nervous or anxious about it, for those who see it come up in an episode, simply wait till you’re achieved studying it, it’s okay. I suppose it is determined by if it’s like a fiction e book or a nonfiction e book. I really feel like on a fiction e book, you’d need to wait, for those who’re planning on studying it as a result of it’s like, there is perhaps spoilers or no matter. However on the nonfiction books, perhaps it could make you want, I all the time love listening to opinions of nonfiction books, after which studying them afterward.

Emma: I do too. Yeah. So yeah, everyone chill.

Elsie: We do not need an ideal schedule, however we’re having a e book membership. And I believe that’s a great step.

Emma: Yeah, perhaps subsequent 12 months, we’ll have an ideal schedule, , perhaps it’s like a gradual factor, we’ll see.

Elsie: Then the opposite information is, okay, so that is the primary episode of our new season, we’re going to have 16 episodes on this season from now till Could, after which we’re going to take the summer season off, which is new for us. So we’ll be off June, July, and a part of August, after which we’ll be again on the finish of August. Okay, so final 12 months, I don’t assume we talked about this, I don’t assume we did or would however I obtained fairly burned out final 12 months. I used to be actually pleased with the episodes we did however I additionally assume that for one, we have been doing a lot of mini-episodes. I did an entire bunch of episodes with totally different folks when Emma was on depart. These on the again finish are much more work and so much more durable to do. Like us sitting down chatting, we’re like, we type of have our circulate, it’s simply a lot simpler. That’s why we don’t have company as a lot, simply extra sustainable for us. So anyway, the secret this 12 months is rather like, make it sustainable and make it enjoyable. As a result of we really feel like if it’s enjoyable for us, then it’s like we’ll preserve doing it longer. We don’t need to burn out and give up. It type of obtained shut final 12 months the place it was like, ooh, like, what number of years are we gonna do that. With the brand new schedule that we’ve put in place, I really feel we’re like, gonna go robust once more and I’m feeling actually motivated once more.

Emma: So we make new content material on a regular basis. We come out with new podcasts each week. Now we have new weblog posts that come out virtually each single day and it’s been that manner for like 14 years. Now we have an Instagram the place we put authentic content material on a regular basis too. So we make quite a lot of content material and it’s actually enjoyable. We adore it. However typically it begins to really feel like a bit of little bit of a hamster wheel. I believe when it begins to get to that place, that’s when Elsie and I are like, oh, we have to work out some boundaries right here. If the entire pleasure will get sucked out, it’s nice for it to be a job as a result of it actually is, but when all the enjoyment will get sucked out, I really feel like folks listening or studying or nonetheless they’re consuming the content material can really feel it and it’s not as gratifying. It must be joy-filled and inventive and even when it’s not all the time A+ content material, it’s at the least obtained to have the guts. It was beginning to lose the guts however don’t fear, we fastened it.

Elsie: Yeah, so our new plan is it’s significantly similar to constructed round well being and sustainability as a result of, in my coronary heart, I’d love to do that podcast for lots extra years. With our weblog, we really feel very assured that we’ll nonetheless be writing our weblog not directly or type or perhaps the identical as we are actually once we’re 50. It’s extraordinarily sustainable as a result of we set it up that manner and did the little tweaks over time. In order that’s what we’re doing right here and it feels actually good. Okay, so with that stated, we’re now not doing mini-episodes. So mini-episodes have been one thing that we first added in at the start of the quarantine. I believe that we did it for lots of causes. We did it as a result of The Woman Gang does it and I really like The Woman Gang. It’s considered one of my favourite podcasts. I believe that they’re so cute and I’d like to be similar to them. It was the start of quarantine, it felt like, we have been gonna be like, at house perpetually and perhaps this could be useful for folks. It felt like that is one thing I may do. It was type of like a time whenever you have been looking for your new circulate. Over time, it simply turned like a chore to think about an increasing number of subjects after which to divide. The subjects that we’re doing in our mini-episodes may have been actually good subjects for the primary episodes. So at this level, we’re feeling like we’d slightly simply do a extra hardy, top quality, one episode per week, and perhaps they’ll be capable of be a bit of bit longer, and so they’ll be capable of have all of our concepts in them. So we predict much less is extra on this case, for positive. Okay. That’s our little what to anticipate whenever you’re anticipating 2022. Okay, so I obtained the most effective listener query on Instagram. The final couple of occasions, I requested I obtained so many good questions. I all the time say our podcast viewers is our favourite viewers and also you guys are so humorous and fantastic and filled with hearts. So we determined to make this an entire section, however unpopular opinion. So we’ve achieved an unpopular opinion, I believe episode earlier than, however lots of people have been requesting, like totally different variations on it. And like, do your unpopular opinions about this subject or this subject. So anyway, I assumed it was humorous and so this week, we’re going to begin a section on in style opinions and we’re gonna do our first subject, motherhood. In the event you’ve by no means been a mom on the web, let me simply inform you that folks have so many opinions. Like at first it was demanding to me and kinda like nerve-racking after which over time, it’s really similar to, humorous to me now.  Do you could have an unpopular opinion but since you could have been a mother for seven months?

Emma: Seven months plus being pregnant, no matter that’s price. Yeah, I used to be making an attempt to think about one. So it simply means like, I believe this and I do know different folks don’t agree type of factor, proper?

Elsie: Yeah. I’m making an attempt to think about what mine is, too. 

Emma: I believe mine proper now, like on the age my son’s at might be that I actually like sleep coaching. I do know some individuals are type of towards it. The 2 that I’m conversant in, there’s most likely different strategies, is a e book known as Child Sensible, which I learn and in addition I’ve had associates learn and type of like digestive for me, like my pal Katie Day. Additionally a course I took just lately that’s known as Taking Cara of Infants and the gals identify is Cara. So it’s like c a r a, taking cara of infants. They’re barely totally different, like barely totally different strategies. However the entire thought helps your little one study to sleep by the night time. I don’t know in the event that they’re thought-about cry it out strategies. I don’t actually know what which means. However I see folks wish to ask issues round that. But it surely undoubtedly does contain a bit of little bit of crying. I do know some individuals are like, I don’t know, like some folks assume it is best to by no means let your child cry mainly. I believe that if that’s the way you want to guardian, it’s your alternative however I don’t actually really feel that manner. I believe crying is rather like a manner that they’re studying to speak. There’s totally different cries. I believe most dad and mom can really feel this. Once you hear your child cry like you may inform when it’s like there’s one thing mistaken or when it’s extra of a like, oh the place are you.

Elsie: There’s one which makes me run up the steps actually quick and there’s one which makes me stroll actually sluggish. 

Emma: Sure, precisely. Sure. Like for me, I most likely would have gotten to a spot the place I’m beginning to hear these except letting him cry a bit of bit at occasions. It’s actually exhausting to so like I’ve to set a timer and like , go by regardless of the methodology that I’m making an attempt to study as a result of I can’t do it perpetually as a result of . Actually, I don’t know for those who ought to do it perpetually. In case your children crying perpetually although, it’s an entire totally different factor, most likely one thing’s mistaken like they’re sick or one thing. However anyway, yeah, I like sleep coaching. In the meanwhile, Oscar goes to sleep round between 7 and 730. He often doesn’t rise up till round 6. He sleeps most of that. He has nights typically the place he wakes up within the night time, however for essentially the most half, not likely. It’s nice. That’s pretty new for us within the final couple of months, and I believe it’s partly to Child Sensible and Taking Cara of Infants. So working for us, and I prefer it, however different folks don’t. That’s cool, no matter.

Elsie: Okay, so, like, each time I used to be about to undertake for the primary time, considered one of my closest associates informed me simply comply with your instincts on every little thing, and like they’re there for a motive. And so I’ve all the time parented by that recommendation, and I undoubtedly, like, thumbs as much as that recommendation. I believe that that’s what most individuals want to listen to.  I suppose my unpopular opinion, is, I don’t know if that is actually unpopular, although it is perhaps in style, I don’t know. However the factor that I believe is totally different about me from quite a lot of different dad and mom that I’m round, is I’m not actually monitoring my children, like pace on developmental milestones and academic milestones. That for me is like, I be ok with that. I’ve had one child who potty educated tremendous quick and one child tremendous sluggish. I actually am a kind of folks that’s like, my children not going to be 10 years previous and nonetheless carrying diapers. So I’m similar to, not gonna fear about it. I’m simply gonna let it occurred quicker typically and slower typically. I’m like that about studying. Once we’re studying collectively, I’m tremendous proud and excited when she’s getting phrases. However I’m not gonna push it. It’s not considered one of my targets to make her the quickest reader in her class, I suppose is what I’m saying. So I believe that’s my factor is I believe that similar to letting some issues occur, like, I’m gonna nurture it, however I’m not gonna push it and that feels proper to me. I believe perhaps like, I’d die on the hill. That appears like a great parenting method to me.

Emma: Yeah, plus your ladies are so totally different, their personalities. I can’t think about making an attempt to suit them each into the identical mould.

Elsie: For positive. You possibly can’t evaluate. As a result of I imply, that is among the powerful issues about moving into faculty and stuff is that you just do have assessments and parent-teacher calls and issues like that the place they provide you want black and white concrete details about in case your children forward or behind. It’s exhausting to not really feel there’s one thing mistaken in case your children will not be forward in each single line merchandise. However I don’t know, I actually don’t consider that that’s what makes an clever grownup. I believe that making studying enjoyable, like at this age, making studying enjoyable might be a very powerful factor over every little thing and potty coaching. I don’t know. I’m similar to winging it. We’ll see.

Emma: I believe that sounds good.

Elsie: Yeah, I don’t even have quite a lot of controversial parenting opinions. I similar to, zone out each time folks begin speaking about it. Generally I believe some folks like sure, it is best to take it significantly however I believe some folks take it too significantly. They’re making an attempt to regulate it manner the place it’s one thing that may’t actually be managed. 

Emma: I don’t assume there may be one proper technique to do it. 

Elsie: For positive there’s not. 

Emma: It’s undoubtedly do what appears proper to you and such as you’re gonna know your child finest. Nobody else is so that you and your companion and simply do what do you assume helps them.

Elsie: Actually, the most effective factor you may most likely do as a guardian is simply to maintain your head down, guardian your individual children your individual manner, and never fear about what anybody else is doing. 

Emma: So on that word, I believe like, you don’t essentially want to offer all of your different associates recommendation or touch upon the best way they’re doing it both. It’s like, , do your factor. I imply if somebody asks you your opinion, that’s nice. However I believe in any other case, it’s like, Nah you’re good, perhaps simply keep in your lane.

Elsie: That’s undoubtedly a great rule in life is to not ship parenting recommendation except you’re requested as a result of each time I obtain parenting recommendation on Instagram, I’ve blocked folks. I do know it’s petty, however I’ve straight-up blocked folks earlier than as a result of they despatched me unsolicited recommendation, as a result of I simply assume that that’s so impolite. Even when they don’t imply it in a imply manner. It simply crosses a boundary that shouldn’t be crossed.

Emma: Yeah, I imply, it’s okay to have boundaries. I don’t assume that’s petty. I don’t assume it’s petty to have boundaries in any respect. I believe it’s fairly wholesome.

Elsie: Mommy likes to dam folks. Okay. So we’ve a listener query.

Voicemail: Hello, Elsie, and Emma, that is Hillary calling from Virginia. My query is, within the new 12 months, I’m launching my very own artistic enterprise. I’m actually excited that I lastly get to work for myself. However I’m additionally feeling pretty daunted by the thought of the way to arrange my days after working for different corporations for a few years. I’m questioning for those who may share ideas or recommendation on the way you create a schedule, the way you construction your workday, and the way you keep centered week after week, particularly with all of the distractions of working from house. Thanks a lot.

Elsie: Hey, Hillary. Okay, so we love a pep discuss. We’re skilled pep discuss givers. It’s considered one of our strengths as people and dealing from house, I’ll say that Emma and I’ve a pure love for working at house. Some folks need to let it develop on them and a few folks have a longing to do it. We naturally adore it. So I’d by no means need to work exterior of the house. I really like working at house, it provides me the proper introvert battery charging station whereas I’m getting issues achieved. It’s similar to so many upsides, so few downsides.

Emma: Yep. So perhaps that’s a tip is that if Hillary, if that isn’t the case for her, then eager about how she goes to get that social battery recharge. For anybody who works in an workplace, that most likely does it for them however she’s going to have to think about new methods of doing that. However Elsie and I’ve no recommendation on that as a result of it’s not one thing we want. I don’t.

Elsie: No I don’t at the moment. So right here’s what works for me, I believe I can really, simplify this so much. So each time I’m working from house, I’d say my largest wrestle is that it’s very straightforward to get distracted. Particularly if in case you have a job that you just like to do, that’s thrilling. I wish to plan forward. I can spend an entire day planning podcasts and typically I do. I can spend an entire day planning weblog posts and typically I do. I can spend hours similar to speaking to folks on Instagram and I get wrapped up in conversations and issues like that, emails, , it goes on and on. It’s very, very, very exhausting to remain on monitor. So what I do daily is I’ve type of like an extra-large post-it word, consider like a tiny pad of paper that has a postage sticker. Day-after-day I rip off the previous one throw it within the trash and daily I make a brand new record on my little publish it and I write, often, three issues that I’ve to try this day. One in every of them is perhaps one thing pressing like I must pay a invoice or I must have a gathering or I would like one thing like that. Then perhaps considered one of them is one thing like I need to work on this, like when Emma was saying deep work. Like I need to write a weblog publish or one thing that’s one thing that I’ve to get in a headspace for it, I can’t simply do it in 5 totally different settings. I often do them in a single sitting. Then perhaps considered one of them might be like one thing small however annoying. Similar to , I must make this name. I must return this e-mail. I would like to speak to this individual about this factor that occurred. So I believe simply making your priorities for that day and actually making like two or three after which staying up in your emails is nice, ending your work early, issues like that, that’s all nice, however there’s gonna be higher and worse days. Working from house for me, it’s all the time like, I all the time really feel like I’m on a curler coaster of being too busy after which having quite a lot of free time and it simply goes forwards and backwards. So I believe simply staying on these most vital duties is what helps me after which when I’ve that additional time then I do kind of dive into issues that I’ve been eager to do for some time often.

Emma: Yep, Yep, I agree. Yeah, I take advantage of it, it’s like a weekly planner notepad. You possibly can see your entire week and it’s from our third sister Elise. She’s not likely our third sister, however we name her that. Her model Get to Workbook. It’s her weekly planner. I’ve used it for years, I purchase them for our employees, I really like them in order that’s what I take advantage of. Comparable factor to what Elsie does. It similar to has the issues that’s like, simply get these achieved as we speak. Generally I’ll put some bonus issues, however then they’ll get moved all through the week. So it simply is determined by how lengthy sure duties take however apart from that, two different issues is, primary, have a delegated place in your own home, that’s like a workspace. You could not have an workplace. I do, I occur to have a room that’s like my workplace and I really like that. However that will not be the case for you, if not simply consider a delegated area. I’ll say for those who’re a laptop computer consumer, which I just lately, I used to have a desktop pc now I’m simply laptop computer. I’ll typically in my thoughts assume okay, I’m gonna do a few emails in mattress tonight and I’ll do this. So it’s okay to have a bit of little bit of grey space however typically talking, I’ve a delegated like, that is my work spot. I’m now sitting there. I’ve introduced my espresso. I’ve introduced my snack. I’m not going to maneuver from the spot now for the subsequent two hours whereas I full these two issues, or no matter. Then I can go to the toilet however I gotta end this stuff first. So designated spot. Then the second factor, it’s so straightforward to get distracted whenever you do business from home. For me, quite a lot of it’s cleansing. I’m like, oh, if I may simply throw a load of laundry in Oscar’s out of pajamas, I may simply throw a load of laundry in. Then the subsequent factor , I’m like folding that laundry, after which I’m like, oh, perhaps I simply want to wash out a few of his garments from his closet or clear out some garments for my closet. It’s a slippery slope, the cleansing. So what I’ll do is I’ve to get sure duties achieved earlier than I’ll let myself throw a load of laundry in. So it’s not that it’s off-limits. It’s not that I’m not allowed to do any dishes throughout my workday. 

Elsie: You type of reserve it for the top of the day? 

Emma: Yeah, or often it’s like, I’ll begin it on my lunch break, and I’ve to get no matter’s essentially the most annoying process that I’d most likely delay, I’ve to get that achieved first. Then I can do the laundry or do some dishes or decide up one thing, , if the eating room tables are filled with junk, decide that up or no matter. Generally I received’t get there as a result of work simply took up the entire day. I didn’t get to do it. That type of annoys me as a result of I’m like I used to be house all day I want I may have began this laundry. However I wanted to prioritize and that’s simply how the cookie crumbles typically people. That’s type of what I’d say is consider these distractions and don’t make them like purple buttons, such as you’re not allowed. However construct them into your day and be sure that they arrive in a spot the place you’ve prioritized work first.

Elsie: Yeah, I believe working from house is among the finest issues on this planet however for those who’re new to it, simply give your self like a season, or perhaps even two to get used to it and make enhancements. Be like, how can I make my workspace higher? I do these little issues like plug-in sure issues on the finish of daily in order that’s how I need it within the morning. Like little issues like that may make an enormous distinction. It’s no matter you want it to be proper. So simply modify it as you go. Okay, so to shut this out, we obtained a humorous enterprise thought query. Effectively, it’s not humorous, I believe it’s a enjoyable query. So we obtained this query on Instagram and it’s, for those who have been beginning a enterprise as we speak from scratch, what enterprise would you begin? I take this to imply, what enterprise do you assume might be a banger proper now, not similar to what do you assume sounds enjoyable, as a result of I believe beginning a bookmobile sounds enjoyable and that’s what I need to say. I believe that what they actually imply is like, an app thought or an internet site thought, or one thing that might generate income. Like what do you assume?

Emma: I suppose so? Yeah. I imply, I wrote down two issues. One’s like what I believe I’d be doing if I wasn’t doing my present profession. If I actually had is like, begin over such as you and I by no means labored collectively, like what would I need to be doing now. So ones like that after which ones like, type of like my dream job that I do need to do someday, however it’s not as a lot about cash, though I need it to generate income however . So I’ll begin with what I’d be doing if it wasn’t doing this. I’d like to personal a cleansing enterprise. I used to wash flats and homes after I lived in Los Angeles proper after faculty and I beloved it. I assumed it was actually enjoyable to enter a home and it’s so messy after which by the point you permit, it’s simply that earlier than and after feeling like I completed one thing. So I like that after which I additionally assume I’d most likely be fairly good at rising that kind of enterprise. Just like the logistics of it and kind of working it, and I believe it may play into, , since brief time period leases had been on the rise the previous few years and similar to totally different folks working from house, I believe that’s type of modified the sport a bit of bit, too. I may see myself doing a enterprise like that, a home cleansing, small enterprise cleansing kind enterprise, and I’d most likely actually get pleasure from it. 

Elsie: Good. 

Emma: So the opposite one is perhaps not what they’re asking, however like, type of a dream job factor I need to do someday, and I believe I’ve talked about it on the podcast earlier than it was most likely like perhaps two years. Sometime, I’d like to personal a mini-golf course. 

Elsie: You’ve gotten talked about this earlier than. 

Emma: sure, I need to make the sculptures the place you must hit the ball round them or like goes by it. I simply assume it might be so creative and enjoyable. Then additionally, I’d like to flip it for the vacations so it’s very spooky for Halloween, after which it’s like very vacation for Christmas. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh. 

Emma: I adore it. 

Elsie: So what I’d do if I have been similar to, I impulsively don’t have a job so I’ve a full day of free time, put that on the market. Then additionally similar to what can I take advantage of my skills to generate income? I believe I’d do home flipping. That’s one thing that I believe I’d be actually good at. I’d get pleasure from it however I don’t in any respect need to do it like on this section of life with little children and having two companies prefer it’s a tough no, it’s not one thing I believe I may do. However I do assume in one other life that that will be one thing that will be a great profession for me, even similar to a technique to generate income for a few years or no matter. So yeah, I believe perhaps sometime I may see myself doing that after I’m older. So far as my model of Emma’s mini-golf like my for enjoyable issues that it’s not essentially for the cash, however the pleasure is there and the nostalgia. So I stated earlier than I’d like to a bookmobile and I believe that will very significantly be enjoyable. I’d not do it for cash although. It will be like for enjoyable, for the love of youngsters books, for the magic of childhood with children.

Emma: So what do you imply by a bookmobile as a result of often, that’s like a factor the library does? So is that this similar to you’re making a gift of books, you drive round and provides away books?

Elsie: I imply, they might be on the market however like yeah. It’s a touring bookstore in a van or a bus or a cool little camper or one thing like that. Then the opposite factor, I believe I actually will do that sometime, I’ve all the time wished to do that since I used to be about 17 or 18 years previous, I’ve all the time had this dream and I cannot have it’s I’d like to personal an actual mattress and breakfast. A real mattress and breakfast, not an Airbnb, an actual mattress and breakfast. That’s like a resort, the place typically they’ve marriage ceremony receptions. In our small city that that they had like these after which ones the place you spend the night time and also you really like have breakfast collectively within the large fancy eating room. I’m into that type of factor. I believe I may see myself doing that, perhaps as a retirement dream sometime.

Emma: And you may rent my firm to do the cleansing.

Elsie: Oh my gosh, that’s a enjoyable query. I’d reply that one each week and doubtless say one thing totally different as a result of it’s enjoyable to think about enterprise concepts. Okay, so thanks a lot for listening. We might be again subsequent week with our reactions to the 2022 pattern stories that are fairly stunning this 12 months. You’re gonna love them, Emma. They’re actually humorous. In the event you’re having fun with the podcast, please take a second to go away us a assessment wherever you take heed to our podcast. If any associates who like podcasts, simply please share our podcast, simply share it round. We love seeing whenever you publish our podcast on Instagram. Meaning so much to us each week. So we’re completely satisfied to be again and we might be again subsequent week. 

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