Every year, I take part within the One Phrase problem, which is a twist on making a New 12 months’s decision. Within the One Phrase problem, you decide one phrase that may function your North Star all year long. The phrase I’ve chosen for 2022 is concord. This phrase sums up a shift in my pondering from pre-pandemic to now.
Earlier than the pandemic, I believed multitasking was essential to my success within the many roles and labels I carry: mother, spouse, chief, good friend, daughter, sister, and lots of extra. I had satisfied myself that if I may make each birthday celebration, be on each committee, and even prepare dinner a sizzling meal day by day, I might be profitable in life. I used to be making an attempt to ensure I didn’t let anybody down or drop the “pink balls” that have been out and in of my management. In flip, I typically got here throughout as aloof, inattentive, and impatient whereas producing an insurmountable quantity of pointless stress, self-doubt, and agony.
It wasn’t till I talked with my life coach that I had an “aha” second. Coach Shaquan and I mentioned how I used to be managing my catabolic and anabolic vitality. Someway, I discussed the phrase stability, and we started digging into how that may carry catabolic vitality. Admittedly, I didn’t purchase into it at first. Steadiness had been part of my manner of being for years. I prided myself on rattling off the phrase stability anytime I participated in a type of core worth actions, and now I used to be wrestling with the concept stability wasn’t so good for me. My dependence on stability blinded me from the enjoyment of being in concord with my life, and I wanted to study to see my life as a choir and never Woman Liberty.
Working within the area of concord comes fairly simply after residing by the pandemic. The pandemic compelled me to reside within the second and lean into the wonderful folks in my life, beginning with my quick household. I’ve reckoned with the notion that I’m mom and spouse, even when my household doesn’t eat a home-cooked meal each day or I’m not at each soccer recreation due to work. I’ve realized to lean into the experience of my faculty staff. My worth as a frontrunner just isn’t contingent on me doing all of it.
The pandemic has allowed me to be nonetheless and know that my position is situational at occasions. Generally I’m the conductor and the composer. Different occasions I’m simply an alto singing within the choir, and I’m okay with that. I now not connect worth to doing or controlling all of it. I’m studying to embrace my position within the second and let the candy melody of peace ring out.