I assume now you would possibly know the actual purpose why he’s divorced. I’m sorry, this case sucks.
Was this visiting your loved ones, the place he’d hopefully be on finest habits, or his household, the place you would possibly really get Mr Hyde? If it’s his, I suppose it might be a massively fucked-up household with horrible vacation dynamics in a massively fucked-up yr, however that’s not an excuse for repeat occasions.
For those who keep, you’d have go into it understanding that that is your life any longer, at all times questioning if the following household factor is the one the place he’ll cry out your secrets and techniques as properly, if he’ll drunk drive dwelling from work events, if he’s doing silly issues with bank cards. As a result of there’s a really, superb likelihood that he’ll. Not simply as soon as, however recurrently.
Would you settle for being his minder, chauffeur, the one who makes excuses, plans to not get embarrassed, plans to not let gullible buddies or household get ripped off, the accountable one with cash, the one who’s at all times in command of adulting. As a result of which may very properly be the worth of admission right here, and that’s a really steep value.
I can’t think about how that is perhaps an appropriate value, however solely you, OP, know the complete particulars.
If you’re afraid of how he’ll react in any manner, and that’s why you requested for scripts to have a mild speak, I might say RUN RUN RUN. You’ll have to speak about this in a blunt method, when he’s sober and there’s a transparent exit for you for those who want it. You don’t must do the work to make this simple on him. I’m assuming you probably did know in regards to the issues he blurted out, if not, once more RUN RUN RUN.
Once more, I’m so sorry, this sucks a lot.