By Leo Babauta
A lot of our lives are lived on autopilot.
We bounce from one process to a different, one message to a different, one assembly to a different, one browser tab to a different. We react in routine methods to different individuals, to conditions. And we justify this as the way in which it must be.
Nothing unsuitable with that — however what would it not be wish to discover different prospects?
What would it not be wish to pause and discover stillness in a second once we would usually be on autopilot?
Right here’s what I’ve been exploring …
Each impediment that we usually consider as an issue to be mounted … each “flaw” in ourselves or others that we decide as one thing to be mounted … what if we will pause, discover stillness, and get curious as a substitute of attempting to repair?
- Somebody is appearing in a approach that feels impolite or unsuitable — maybe my autopilot response is to evaluate them, complain about them internally or externally, and both attempt to repair the issue or keep away from the individual. However I’ve been exploring getting nonetheless, and bringing curiosity to my response — what does it really feel like, why do I get triggered on this approach? Then curiosity to the opposite individual — how may what they’re doing make sense to them?
- If I’ve been procrastinating on one thing — my autopilot response is likely to be to evaluate myself and really feel insufficient, or possibly to keep away from even excited about it. What if I get nonetheless, and produce curiosity to the way it feels to procrastinate on this, and what worry is likely to be resulting in the procrastination? Might I carry curiosity to why this process is even vital to me?
- If I’m complaining about one thing or feeling burdened by one thing — my autopilot response is to only get by way of it, feeling put upon and a bit powerless. Might I get nonetheless and produce curiosity to my feeling of grievance, burden, powerlessness? Might there be something to discover in what I actually need on this state of affairs, and why I’m avoiding talking up for that?
On this approach, each problem turns into a spot to discover with curiosity, and there’s development and studying and delight to be present in every thing.
This course of, for me, begins with stillness. After which deepens with curiosity.
What may it’s like for you?